MENTAL HEALTH – a buzzword?

MENTAL HEALTH – a buzzword?

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  It has been almost 2.5 years since I joined The Nous, a UK non-profit organisation as an Ambassador. The vision, to create awareness on mental health. I have a separate Facebook Group Ladyboss. Both Facebook groups facilitate information sharing and provide a safe closed space to share journeys and get support online. The groups are targeted at Black Asian and Ethnic Minority Groups. The reason for targeting is, Mental Health remains a taboo subject in many BAME communities. In the UK, discussions with CEO Ms Lade Olugbemi and other ambassadors there was  consensus that BAME groups do not access services due to fear, stigma and discrimination. Further there seemed a disparity in support and funding for these groups. Mental Health is fast becoming part of many conversations, a buzzword.…
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Why I said No to #metoo

Why I said No to #metoo

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It is a deeply hidden personal secret that I don't handle issues to do with sexual assault or harassment well. The reason I struggle to publicly speak about my rape as a minor at the age of 11 and 12.  An interesting fact is that fibromyalgia in some women is triggered by trauma like rape. The body remembers what you would like to forget. Even though I am healed, my recent years of grief and physical pain have left me vulnerable. There have been judgemental reactions "how did you let it happen" "why didn't you tell anyone?" The worst "how can you let it happen three times?". To which in anger I have lashed out "well I was sitting around, and invited some guy to come and rape me!". It…
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Mental Health in Kenya – Njoki’s story

Mental Health in Kenya – Njoki’s story

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          I strolled into Java Yaya Centre excited to visit with an old friend. The person whom I met was not the same woman I had not seen for 10 years. We had found each other through facebook and I looked forward to some old memories. Njoki aged 44 was born into what we would call a middle class family. She was brought up in the outskirts of the city and we had met when I was in school. She narrated sadly that her parents had passed away and had 3 others who were living and working in Nairobi successfully. The deaths in her family had happened in a space of 12 months and she had been struggling to come to terms with the loss. She…
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Mental Health in Kenya – My thoughts

Mental Health in Kenya – My thoughts

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I arrived home mid February 2017 for rest and recuperation. During this time, I had an opportunity to hold discussions with different people on Mental Health in Kenya. Mental Wellness is for everyone and I found persons with terminal illnesses had little or no support especially for lower income service users.  It was fantastic to meet and hear from other people that the discussion had started. My only concern was that there were a lot of personal projects and there was a need for an umbrella body or collaboration that was needed as different positive skills were obvious to me. My interest was to research what was on the ground and a place for skill migration supporting mental health in Kenya. I am an ambassador/project board member for The Nous,…
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SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

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Extract from "Wounded: The Journey of a Nameless Woman” by Waírímú K Warobi© It was an early Sunday morning in November 2015, the streets were quiet and there was no activity. The sky was grey in London; the beginnings of winter cold crept in. The morning fog was heavy, and no doubt everyone snuggled in a bit deeper under the duvet, hoping they didn’t have to go to church that day. I stepped on to the balcony to search for the London eye, I couldn’t see the wheel. The light and dark seem to mingle together as the morning struggled to wake up. If it were not for the fog in my head, the crisp morning and fresh air was good for the soul. “Lord winter mornings are hard” I…
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Brain Fog – I don’t want to lose my mind

Brain Fog – I don’t want to lose my mind

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Dear Lord help me, I don’t want to lose my mind! The day before yesterday I locked myself out of my house again! God knows I cannot afford to fork out another £80.00 to get a new lock. Yes, I have done it before! I mindlessly pick the keys where I put them everyday, only this time I picked the wrong keys, walked to the store and came back to find my access fob is the wrong one!! My mind has been numb for a while. I knock on my neighbours door, as luck would have, this time I had left my balcony door open. My whole spine is screaming as I cannot stand for long and every nerve had started a rendition of the Hallelujah as sung my Katherine…
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The Power of Your Story

The Power of Your Story

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I have always wrestled with telling my story simple reason at times people look at me like I dropped from Venus on a space ship. Other times is knowing when and where I can tell it like it is. So I pour hours of writing in a book that I want to see published other times I want the earth to open and swallow me up at the thought of being vulnerable. At the age of 10 I looked up at my dad and told him, “daddy I am going to write 5 best sellers and live off the royalties”. After moving to England my dear father started bothering me, “when are you going to do it?”. My first book “Zuena” which means “Beautiful” in Arabic, is a story of…
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Thank you Daddy

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[video width="640" height="640" mp4="http://www.msladyboss.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/VID_43780825_195453_347.mp4"][/video] In our journey of trying to understand this illness called Fibromyalgia, its important to have faith and hope. Faith that one day I'll get this pacing business right and live in some semblance of normalcy in a world of chaos. The chaos of managing even day to day activities. It's a quiet Sunday morning and like most mornings I have my 500ml drink of water and I thought of my dad. It's so important to have someone who listens and believes you and in you. The sun is seeping through my open balcony door as I think I need to clean up, but my joints are saying a whole different thing. My mind quickly moves to my recent visit to Kenya, home. I didn't know what…
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The genesis of my journey with mental health

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It will be 5 years this August since I was diagnosed with depression and two and a half years since I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. At the moment, I am sitting on my sofa with my head pounding for the last three days. I cannot figure out if it is high blood pressure or tinnitus as I can hear my heart pounding in my ears. My tears well up as I play with my hair which is thinning and Lord knows if it is menopause or the stress I went through. To share my story I have to be authentic enough to say that the “why me?” question never has an answer. My Fibromyalgia was triggered by a multitude of issues; at a routine gynecologist appointment I learned I was…
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Just What is Purpose

Just What is Purpose

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When the word "Purpose" was mentioned I would get the hibby gibbies, I had no idea what people meant. It is at crossroads I asked myself the question “Who am I and what is my purpose? It culminated with an 11 year search with rocky roads, highways and byways to settle the answers. Purpose is defined by the Merriam Webster dictionary as a :  something set up as an object or end to be attained :  intention b :  resolution, determination 2 :  a subject under discussion or an action in course of execution ON PURPOSE :  by intent :  intentionally  I Ilike keeping it simple, what is Purpose? The answer lies in a first question “why do you do what you do?” Contrary to popular belief purpose is not…
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